My purpose of creating this post:
When I am organizing my folders on my laptop,
I found out one of the folders is my blog posts for my blog setup in the year
2016. In the year 2016, I still studying in Northern University of Malaysia. If
got small gap of time, I will write down my blog idea and then form a post in
order to share it to my blog page. Unfortunately, due to lack of contents and
idea, my blog creation is postponed and I proceed to prepare my blog in the
year 2017. At that time, the reasons of creating the blog posts is to share my
life thought about living, career, relationship, academic, and life lessons
that I gained from Robin Sharma, Dale Carnegie, Joel Osteen, Nick Vujicic and
so on after I studied their book series. Recently, after I studied the blog
posts, I think it is helpful for those who are seeking to improve their living.
In certain posts, I will set a framework and process for easy understanding. I
hope my life thought sharing is helpful for you in setup life goals and
achieving your dream.
Introduction
about my works
Life, is embracing living happily,
meaningful, extraordinarily, cheerful, and abundantly by using the time,
effort, knowledge, understanding, thinking that we have. I strongly believe
that, all of the people born to be living happily in this world by acquiring the
values, things, knowledge, experiences, thinking and lessons to attain mastery
but not mediocrity. All of the excellent people will say similarly to propel
themselves that life is full of happiness. Nevertheless, think reversely, is
combination all of these element will become better you, greater you, and make
you feel that you can live like every day in young age attitude with full of
anticipation and enthusiasm? After 5 years, the changing of environment, do you
still follow in, below or beyond? Therefore, this is the time to understand and
create the new environment and space that can make you feel great every day and
re-think that, “your own” life is “about”….
I believe that, some people learn to
improve themselves by looking genius opinions, entrepreneurs’ unstoppable
actions attitude in works, and life lessons sharing from some successful people
in the world, or for the tough and struggle one, is go through the process. The
questions is, see and understand all of the value pass from them, will you
become more understand about yourself and think what are the next step that you
going to do to create more better you. Deeply or shallow only? The deeply is
you will try to create balanced life in term of spiritual, emotional, health,
and financial, it means you have your “own” opinions in everyday that is good for
you instead of depression. On the other hand, shallow is you just talk and show in
front others that you “should and should not”, is intention but no
implementation.
In this world, too many people living in
depression, vexation, tension, stress, and frustration between love, family,
friends, works, and study although they are full of personal thinking. Try to
count on what you have but not what you don’t have, and then link all of your
talent, endowment, effort, and thinking to every works that you do, I strongly
and sincerely believe you will achieve the place that you never dreamed of. If
you try your best to live today, no need to feel guilty about it and believe
that God will step in to do and help you to solve the problems that you cannot
solve.
In this 8 in 1 blog post, I will share about my values, experiences and
wisdoms gained from my book review and life experience. I hope that, you will discover and apprehend
about your own “inner thinking” about living with accentuating sincere, faith,
appreciate, selfless, humble, and passion between all of your “matters” which will
influence your life in speak, action and think. Meanwhile, unfair, sad, morose,
and disappoint situation will not provoke you have a critical spirit. This is
because sometime we said we should live happily, but our own mind will be distorted
or in delusion, am I? Although we know that it will happen, but because of a
small doubt, our life are being affected horrendously. Therefore, start your
simple good life today with “inner understanding and discovering.” Blessed
you!
01
Don’t be an egocentric
person!
I
am….
The
momentum of egocentrism is becoming aggressive when we are growing up. Let me share an experience for you, in the learning and discovering
process, I am always feeling disappointed, frustrated, and even desperate that
I had been isolated from people and have to accept and adapt the entire unfair
situation on that time. They always criticize what you should do, speak, and
even small matters by giving privilege about self-centered. Their intention is to
explain something that make them feel special about themselves in front of
others and try to limit your ability to done your personal works, love,
giving, and the most pivotal is, fulfill your destiny. For me, try to think, if
I am self-centered to ponder that all of these are unfair for me and I have to
give up and desperate about it, what is the consequence and the ending? I am
not thinking like that anyway, because I think that all of the adversity is
another new beginning and advancement for me to improve myself to fulfill my
own destiny and if I keep on self-pity, that is not only affect my happy life,
and also closing the window of opportunity for me to go extra miles. In the
meantime, not all of the people around this world are perfect as you think,
people, you need to forgive and condone them to let it pass. Maybe, all of
these is an emotional test to test your quality.
Therefore, I have to start from zero and learn
to live today, no matter is dealing with new people, works, parents, and also
forgive and bless the person that I love. First, I put all of my faith and
passion into my works, learn to understand, respect all of the people that know
me, forgive and compromise the person that like to criticize, and so on. Not
only that, I also try to understand them through Internet and friends to make each
other more closely and understand. But I also sincerely hope that, all of you
will not face the difficult time like me and live happily with your friends,
parents and spouses. Egocentrically can affect our thinking, behavior,
demeanor, personality, and talk. Holistically, you need to understand yourself
deliberately and improve the environment surrounded you.
The
words and power of I am sometime you
can use to improve the unfair situation and solve the dissension between
others, but you have to know that, if you are using these two words in your
whole life without concerning the situation of other in different aspects,
always put yourself at first, you will become more stubborn, inflexible and
self-centered. Learn to give and help others sometime is a great way to make
you become the most happiness person in this world, you will not poor and
alone, but you will become more attractive, let the person that is selfish and
arrogant pass, don’t let them affect your wonderful living, because all of
these are tentative and will impede your way to succeed if you are persisting
about it. Remember, distort reality person will distort result in their life
whereas loving and caring person has substantial life result greatly. BE A PEOPLE-BUILDER AND HEALER TODAY!
Attitude
The
attitude is obviously can affect the entire living of someone. It is just like
a small seed in your own thinking, if you put good seed in your life today, it
will become an encouragement for you to live bravely and greatly. Nevertheless,
if you put negative seeds in your living today, talk something “today there are
got a huge volume of works that torture me, people not willing to help, no
anticipation today,” it will make your attitude today aggravated slowly due to
you have no passion about your living today.
I
want to say that, attitude is very interesting, if you have good attitude
today, you will feel enthusiastic about your things that you going to do, you
will find the solution, identify the problems, and also good with the people.
Nevertheless, sometime, some of the people today, they know that positive
attitude can change and adjust their thinking and ways of living, they still
living under negative attitude. The reasons are, you don’t know what is the problem
that I faced today, the boss placed me at an unfair situation, the exam result is
bad, and people are leaving me when I was at difficult time and not willing to
understand me well.
You
have to know, in living today, most of the day don’t have ‘perfect ten’ for
you, not everything is great and under your expectation, but what kinds of
attitude you should have is, positive.
Every time and everywhere, never allow the negative feeling influences your attitude even only a particular matter and put a positive attitude in your
thinking, talking, and moving. Tell yourself, I am great, strong, and
excellent, there are no disappointment, sickness, and malaise will impede me to
living great today, and problems seem big, but this is only temporary, it will
pass and I will never allow all of them leave any hurt inside my own mind.
Positive
attitude sometime is not only talk in our own mind only, you need to move with
faith, talk with sincere, and learn to accept every situation that you faced,
so that you can breakthrough every obstacle and achieve inner peace in your own
soul. In this competitive world today, we are facing the most strong enemy is
fear, it can be said that it is a silent killer in our mind, move, and talk.
You fear your exam result will not getting well, you fear you will not get a
good job, and you fear your dream will not become reality in your life.
Remember, fear only impedes you to fulfill your destiny and achieve your dream,
what you can do is, change and learn. Change the circumstances that you face by
improving your ability and learn to accept the environment and situation to
make you more understand what is the main factors that provoke you fear.
Certainly,
fear can influence our attitude in the living today, it makes us feel
lethargic, tiredness, and even no anticipation about what we have today.
Friends, I want to tell you, this is inevitable that you fear something bad
will occur, even I am also will fear, fear about my ways of living is not working today, but you have to know that, if you keep fearing about something
that will not occur, it will affect your attitude about entire living, so try
to gain encouragement from friends, parents, and others who can make you feel
trusted. Lastly, the most important is, you have to tell yourself, not matter
how bad the result, I will accept it, the journey to fulfill my destiny is
embracing sad, failure, disappointment, morose, and barriers, and even people
can stop you but all of these are temporarily, I will get over the test, become
a history maker.
Certain
people practice wrong attitude for treating people, managing works, and living.
Poor attitude commonly is a characteristic of egocentrically. Friends, don’t
let this affect your living, learn to understand people today, because all of
them go through sad moments and unhappy memory that you will not understand,
forgive and condone them, let them feel that they are feel valued, remembered,
missed, and respected. The reason is, you never know what kinds of background
that they are passing before. So, if you make adjustment in your life starting
from every tiny particular, you will see that, around the environment will
slowly changing because of your simple actions. No matters are people, works,
and living.
Physiology and Psychology
Physiology
and psychology are the great study
in our living, we will learn to understand the behavior, personality, physical
characteristics, and mentality, we can create the forgiveness, condone, humor, and
humanity environment around us. You no need to say impossible, you just use
your time and effort invest about it and fulfill their needs, don’t let fear,
desperate, hypocritical, and disappointment as mind-killer in your own mind.
Some
of the people today, consider themselves understand the human needs because
they are highly educated and becoming more selfish and arrogant. They think
people in this world are hypocritical, having bad intention, not perfect as
they are. Meanwhile, they must learn to understand me and not me try to care about
them. Here is the point, person who
shows how clever and strong in front of others are unreasonable, whereas person who
helps people, show how humble and sincere, and willing to learn can attract
more people to improve them in this life long journey. If you
willing to change from egocentrically to generous and humble, today will be
your new turning point in your living.
Spirit
Spiritual
growing and restoration can be passed through from life lessons, experiences,
adversity, obstacles, and barriers. In life, guilty, desire, aspiration, hope,
disappointment, and desperation often takes role in process. They are building
characters, perspectives, aspect, and passion in our life to be more mature,
determine, and reliable. People placed you at unfair situation, workmates said
you are slow and cannot works, friends reject you, lecturers said you are C
student, you effort are not working, all of these are an opportunity for you to
grow in spirituality. You can said I want to prove them that I can, or let it
pass, never let them control your behavior, and who do you think who you are?
Angry, patient, or passion, all of these will take role in your life process.
In working, some of the people will think about the financial situation, take degree certificate as honor, or realize the process of doing something that you proud of through learning every day. Meanwhile, earn money today can also be considered as a spiritual lesson for you in term of mentality. Here are the factors that I think that is part of our spiritual growing and as follow:
In the framework, you can see that we are dealing a lot of issue in our life no matter in works, relationship, or personal problems. To me, all of these are part of our living process and if we want to get inner peace in our life, you have to face the problem with courage, stay with positive people, and form up a positive mindset in your life.
02
Speak
Speaking is very prominent in our
living. The ways we speak is extremely giving effect to our living, family,
spouses, lover, and ourselves. It just like a seed, we put positive seeds in
our living today, it will not affect our emotional and contemplation.
Reversely, if we put negative seed in our living today, e.g., I will not be
great today, the problem very big, I cannot combat and overcome it, and long
time I don’t meet my spouses, lover, or friends, they will strange about
me. Owing to your negative speaks,
things will slowly exacerbate because it influence your attitude and mind. In
life, many things come against us, hurting, backbiting, slander, jealous, and
criticize; they took our joys, happiness, enthusiasm, sincere, passion, and
compassion. The most exaggerate is, the simple greeting is also being halted
and ignored. People, you can be generous
and humble person today, but this is fully depend on the ways of speaking with
people and yourself. Don’t describe how great and strong the barricades are,
but try to use your power and strength to change the circumstances that you
stand. Sequentially, you need to improve and start talking positive from:
Parents
In parenthesis, parents are the greatest
introducer in your life. They bring you into the world, nurturing and
cultivating us to adapt this world in different aspects of environment in term
of intrinsic and extrinsic. When you facing failure and barricades in life, you
success in life, struggle in working, slander and backbiting from people and
even ignored by your most believed and loved person, the concentration of their
love, sincere, enthusiastic, and passion, never ceased and neutralized. It
shows patient they are seeking to protect you from toddler life until adult
life. You can grumble and groan about my family are not rich and influential as
compared to high income and educated family, but in the aspect of love they
given to you, are never lesser than others no matter where we are.
Holistically, we should recognize what we have and not what we don’t have. Keep
it simple, don’t let this unnecessary thinking cover the gracious and love from
parents. The more you speak positive in your family, the better you get in mind
and heart.
Back to the speaking, the communication
with parents requires condone, patient and amicable to prevent dissension
especially they are conservative. When you are facing a situation that your
parents are temper, malaise and disagree about your view, don’t fight back
which is detrimental but try to manage the problem in a persuasive way. As I explained before, you have to
know that what kinds of the background that they come before and as the child,
you have to forgive them and praise anyway, that the problem is tentative and
can be solved. Take a deep breath, find an alternative to solve the problem as
well. Communication is the great method to understand between each other,
meanwhile, apology can make the person prepare to forgive others. You cannot
always think what are you supposed to garner and what other should do for you,
you should fully embrace the weakness and mistakes of parents by forgiveness
and speak some positive words to your parents.
For the people that come from a single
parent family, I would like to bless and wish you sincerely that you will live
abundantly, exceedingly, and greatly every day. Maybe you are now desperate
that everyone got happy family and you are not, but you have to know that, we
cannot choose what kinds of family background that we come from, but we can
choose the ways of living we are if you keep believing rather than
disappointing. People can take your happiness, hurt you, criticize you and
repelling you due to you are trivial, although all of these will debilitate
you, but keep stay in faith. This is because if you keep believe and pray, you
will meet your loved person, establishing happiness family, and fulfill your
dreams. Maybe it will take times 5
years, 10 years and even 30 years, when the time comes, I tell you, “YOUR
HAPINESS IS COMING.” So, people, start speaking positive words in faith to
yourself and family!
Friends
Friends are the most exhilarating and
influential person in our life. Their smile, willful, innocent, and witty has
written another funny and meaningful story in our life. Frankly, I have many
friends in my life, some of them are close to me and some of them are not. I
feel proud and glad that most of them now are living happily every day, some
are pursuing studies, whereas some of them are working. Here is the point, how
happiness you are not you have how many friends in your life, but it is
depending on what kinds of seed that you plants in every friendship. To keep a good friendship, you need to treat
them like first day that you know them every time, appreciate them, and be a
motivator and listener when they are unhappy and despair about small matters
and relationship. Moreover, make them feel that they are needed, missed, and
remembered in your whole life.
In some situation, you will discover
that, I treat the person like my best friend in my life, why he/she forget and
supersede me. I had invested a lot of time, effort, words to maintain the
enthusiasm among them, but it is still strange and no working. I feel
disappointed, alone, and morose. Friends, you need to know that, in this life
long journey, it is embracing many disappointments, happiness, morose, and
desperate not only in friendships, but also in every single moments.
Nevertheless, the special important, it is only a test to determine and
indicate you should form a new perspective in your life, don’t let the negative
feelings control your emotion, and have a restoration about your mentality.
When speaking and communicating with
your friends, actually, it is no requiring any special skills and techniques to
maintain the conservation, what you needs to do is make them feel great
when met you. Meanwhile, be a good listener, lending your ear to them, listen
their personal matters, worry, vexation, and providing encouragement for them. Speak
some positive words for them in every situation and if dissension occurs, have
a discussion. Correcting the mistakes and keep positive in minds, even though
it is complicated, you must make an adjustment. The most importantly, you should have
the sincere and love heart together with them and let them feel that they are
the protagonist in their own life.
Lover
and spouses
In the living, it is inevitable that
argument, dissension, and dissatisfied occur among you and your partner. She
cannot understand your feeling and mismatch of opinion, do some actions make
you fed up and frustrate, reproach you if you done something wrong and do some
things which are below her expectation. People, life is too short for you think
negatively about your lover, if you really want to neutralize the situation,
have a talk with her. Ask yourself, is she bad as you think? Absolutely not, this
maybe the time that make or stimulate you to understand your partner. Only
talk, we can understand their thinking expectation and anticipation about us.
Except talk, there are not any great ways to solve the situation. Sometime you
will say, easy to intent but hard to enforce. However, if you give courage and
compassion about yourself and your lover faithfully, you will see something
different between each other abundantly. She loves you, because she trust and
appreciate you, rather than want you to dig her weakness as laughing stock. The
next things is no matter how many people talk and view about your relationships
when misunderstanding occur, this is fully depend on you how to evaluate the
situation. She is your lover even spouses, there are not reasons to stop you if
you are not understand the situation faced clearly. Therefore, be the wise
person, forgive and protect her. If you done wrong, apologizing is accentuated.
Why? Only three simple reasons, “I love you, I need you, and I appreciate you.”
At the same time, girls should also act the same way to treat your
extraordinarily partner.
On the other hand, if you are split up with your partner because of some reasons, please be open- hearted to accept
the truth, bless her, and never slandering her. This is because the most
hurting one is you, not her. Maybe there is another great planning in front of
you, the most crucial is, you need to accept and let it passes, keep getting
backup be patient and not victim, use the time to do the things that you think
is important and keep waiting. Sequentially, if you and your spouse having
different view and understand about something, set in your mind that: I need to
understand her more and more to link my “picture”
to her “picture,” never allow
skeptical appear in our love in contrary.
Having unshakeable and eternal love is
requiring commitment, compassion, sincere, understanding and communicating
between each other. It may take time, but one day, you will see all of the
happiness will happen for you. Start in the fresh morning today, give a simple
hug for your partner, and speak in your own mind “I am yours, there will no
sickness, no disappointment, and negative thoughts can hinder me to bring you
forward to happiness.” This simple promise can give you encouragement to
maintain your relationship and can take your relationship beyond your
expectation exceedingly, abundantly, and greatly.
Yourself
Actually, what you talk today can
determine what kinds of living to live today, be good, extraordinary,
excellent, bad, morose, worry, or stress. Speak sometime can create power and
encourage for you to live, no matter you face failure, sickness, disappointment,
unfair, and abandon.
In
life, people can take your happiness, you
should speak to yourself, “ I forgive you, you don’t own me, maybe you have a
bad day before, stimulate and trigger me to face the circumstances similar like
you, I must get over it, to let it pass,
not a bit, is all of it.”
In
learning, exam result shows that you are not
qualified to further your study, tell yourself, “I am blessed, I am talented, I
am extraordinarily, I will be the front and never at back, because if I have
put all of my effort and time into my works, result may seem unfavorable to me,
but all of this is temporarily, it will not hinder me to fulfill my destiny.
People not understand my works, but I understand the value of my works.”
In
working, your supervisor said you are slow,
cannot live in the working life, and criticize you, persuade yourself, “God never arranged us live on this
world embracing sad, disappointment, desperation, morose, and aversion, but is
happiness, maybe all of these obstacles are the promotion and advancement to
grow up. It seem permanent, but it is temporarily, I will breakthrough all of
it!”
In
relationship, you have lost the most
appreciated person in your life, maybe you have made a poor decision, and you
don’t understand his/her situation, paradox, and lack of understanding. Tell yourself,
“I bless you that you will live happily with new partner, maybe this is a test
for me to understand her deeply, learn to good with people, apologize, and many
more. If we meet again, there will be another new perspectives and beginning
for us. Or, there are another great
planning for me in front if I am keep believing. ” Remember, never talk back,
despair, and hate about his/her, be patient and strong, keep blessing and
praying. In return, you can find inner peace in your own heart.
God
The last things is the most crucial,
speak to God. No matter what religion you are, God has given us ability, that
is, speak to Him. God can cover all of the fault that we have and do, forgive
us, and give us encouragement to keep living.
No matter who you are, you can pray for peaceful, harmony, and
happiness. When you are facing unfair situation, “God, thanks for providing me
strength and courage to face it.” In the morning, “Thanks God is the whole new
day for me to improve, renovate, increase, and fulfill my destiny.”
Meanwhile, when facing small problem,
praising God anyway, it must got good value inside that we can see and praise.
Look at positive and cover negative, there are no perfect 10 in this world.
Remember, God had built different character among us, not the ordinarily, but
is an extraordinarily, He find the person to serve Him, is not the most clever
one, not the laggard, but is the person who is using his/her sincere heart to
believe Him.
Holistically, start praying today, only
praying, you can find inner peace and evade wailing and faming in unfavorable
situation and will not be schizophrenics.
Friends, speak positive today in your friends, lover, parents, and yourself, and find new perspective and passion today, to live
03
Opportunity
“Thanks for giving this opportunity to
fulfill my destiny and dream.” Opportunity is a key, link a person’s success
from hallucination to reality, and it likes a window, let the scenery to
lighten the whole dark place and future of the person no matter it is huge or
tiny. People face unfair situation and failure in working, an opportunity to
grow up and self-review. Failing exam paper and cannot continue to next
semester, an opportunity for self-improvement and learn to rising from the
fall. Relationship makes you feel depressed and unconfident, also is a chance
for you contemplate about how to retain the relationship with your valentine.
Opportunity usually appear in every
situation, despite of where we are, an opportunity to revolution, success,
huge, growing up spiritually, and rising. It makes us mull about our ability,
endowment, capability, weakness, and other factors, which are wrap around us.
In life, no matter you stand at what kinds of status in society, upper, middle,
or lower, you can acquire different type of opportunity for improvement or insurrection
and this is depended on the attitude of people to see and perform. You can
become millionaire, winner in a competition, and an insurmountable person in
your life as well as you appreciates the opportunity.
Giver
The person provides opportunity to
someone is giver. The existence of giver in term of opportunity is out of our
expectation and we need to acquire and gain by keep persisting. When you
perform well in works, giver will provide you an opportunity to elevate as
manager or meet the person within your career to success. Meanwhile, if you
have good education and qualification, you can pursue your study or gain good
job opportunity in the future time. Nevertheless, negligent and disparage from
acceptor has provoked the appearance of givers become less and infrequent. This
is because they view that the accepted person never appreciates the opportunity
given by them or have negative motive or intention which can menace their own
status no matter in job position, financial status, competitive advantage, and
relationship. Meanwhile, they also afraid they will face the loss and fall due
to over-generalize or the influence from others.
Sometime this is miserable to express
that some of the person today like to stop others treat others well through
criticizing, slandering, and backbiting because of jealous and mistakes made by
the person. Look at another perspective, in living, actually no matter what
type of person, peculiar, introvert, and extrovert, they should be given an
opportunity to develop their potential and endowment. This is because we don’t
have the right to stop others to fulfill their destiny and poor at giving
opportunity on the reason that they are poor, lack of potential, narrow minded,
and come from poverty background. It is good that our self-evaluate can
determine what kind of person can obtain the opportunity, but we cannot become stopper to impede others by criticizing. We should as the persuader, convince
and improve others with fully persuaded attitude despite the egocentrically of
the person.
As you become people builder, helper,
and healer around your people, you no need to feel guilty and poor, the leader
and maker of life help the needed person at the same time. If they are try to
neglect and place you at an unfair situation in return, be fully forgiveness,
condone their fault and mistakes, don’t fight and revenge, have a open-heart,
don’t make your eyes filled with tear, and never despair, I want to tell you, “You
are great and sincere, after facing this incident, wish you there are no more
disappointment, desperate, and hurt appear in your life and place you at this
situation again and again.” Treat people
well by giving opportunity for them correspondence to give you a chance to more
understand about others, who knows? He or she may become another history maker
in life and repay kindness to you in return or, new beginner in your life.
Acceptor
An
opportunity for acceptors is a turning point in their life. The provision of an
opportunity sometime can make us go more forward, enlighten, discovering, and
exploring which can built us become wealth, happiness, and complacent. Simply to say, an opportunity is a new season
of life for person to fulfill his destiny and success. Nevertheless, not
all of the acceptor will accept the imagined opportunity to do their works,
which are crucial for them. But if we are appreciate it and try to do what we
know instead of what we have, who knows? It is another season growing for you
to become wiser, mature, and compassion.
Not
all of the opportunity is given by person is known as opportunity, sometime it
is invisible, if you observe and discover it, you will know, where and what is
the opportunity is. People stop and leave you in sad and unfair situation, an
opportunity to grow up and learn to forgive, your lover relinquish you
ruthlessly due to fault and mistake done between one of us, an opportunity to
learn to accept and realize that forgive is the key, to make each other to
appreciate and respect each other, at works, supervisor scatters rumor that you
have not any talent and ability to accomplish your tasks, a great opportunity
to search inner side in your soul profoundly and dignify it, to bring out your
talent to become insurmountable person in this world. As acceptors, we should
have thankful attitude that all of the opportunities happen for me to become
another better person that we not used to be.
In this fast-paced society, every person is facing difficult times, which seem long and tiredness. They miss out opportunity that is an advancement and improvement because of some unresolved issues. People, if turn to me, no matter what opportunity it is, I will try to use it with my ability to achieve something valuable for me and also for others. This is because although the chance given may seem tiniest, but I think that it will give ripple effects for me through amass for a long time.
04
Time
Time is a most precious and
priceless treasure in the world. How do you spend, manage and plan definitely
will influence the environment of your life in the next 5 years. This is
because every seconds pass will refine us to become who we are, where we are,
and why we are here. Sometime will you stop for a while and think, am I use the
time wisely to something important like doing something that you like, face the
new problems and challenge today, or tell someone that you are really
appreciating her existence? During university life, I feel proud that all of my
works are on the right track and recognized by related institution.
Nevertheless, I feel regret that I never use the wisely in the right way. I
always postpone important life event that will bring wonderful experience to me
and make me feel that this world is better if I am understand and realize more.
The reason that I postpone all of these events always is the same, because of
study. Actually, I like to spend my time to study and do some simple research
about the works that I feel interesting. But because of small excuse, now it
became a big problem to me to manage all of these personal matters in a multi
tasks way. Now I discover that I gain something in my academic, but I sacrifice my time in my relationship, family, friends, and most important is me. There is no
perfect person in this world, sometime human will make mistakes in his life and
gain lesson in the end.
When I learn to prioritize my academic works and start to join new people and environment, I realize that I am totally different as compared to before. I can express my point of view confidently, no matter in what kind of situation, because of too persistence about academic, the way I speak and express is weird and peculiar. I try to ask myself that, because have to assure every works need in the right track, I have missed something that is important in my life, that is understanding people around us by spending TIME. You have to know that, every person in this world have personal issues inside, not only you, so learn to be happy by keep people around us feel energetic when communicating with them. Actually, regret about manage time improperly between people and works is a good sign to me to grow up. Now, although I know a lot of people around us, but I never immerse myself into them because of distance, different topic and views. Seem lonely because of poor time management, but I trust that small step of change will make everything in my life different.
Besides that, I have a lot of things
want to complete it, become undergraduate, entrepreneur, and play guitar,
basketball and learn new thing every day. I would like to say, learn to
organize time can do and realize more, it doesn't matter we still falling down
but at least we have a try to trust ourselves we can achieve something.
Academic should be put in priority, but we still need to remember, knowledge
only provide us a path, act will make us become legend in the end.
05
Imperfect
In fulfilling our life
goals toward the society, we are always dealing with a lot of issues between
works, people and ourselves. If we are not managing all of these problems
properly, it will become our next obstacles in our life. When standing in the
crossroad of life, we saw a lot of people success, possess their ideal life, or
have legacy in their life without hesitation, we will ask ourselves: “Am I
imperfect so that is the main obstacle to fulfil our goals?” “Is that the
correct path that I formed to myself to achieve my goals?” “Why people always
not comprehend about our situation and obstacles?” All of these questions will
appear in our mind to delineate our problems. Sometimes, I think, this is the
beauty of the problems to reflect our imperfection to stimulate us learn to
become well defined person in life.
No matter today or
tomorrow, problems will appear everywhere in our life. In works, we will face
conflict and lack of trust among group. In relationship, we feel we are not
understand enough about our partners. Personally, we always cannot solve our
problems thoroughly. Let’s back to the simple, if we have problems, solution
always hidden in our life and need us to quest for it. It’s just like operating
a machine, we need electricity to generate energy to maintain the operation so
this is what we called process. Actually, certain of the people cannot solve
life issues when we encounter unfortunately. This is because our mind set,
attitude, determination and past experiences hinder ourselves to deal with
them. When the time flaw, imperfect like an enemy, have occupied our life.
Therefore, solve a
problem should be started from us. It means that we should have clear mindset
to see, feel, and realize the problem. Believe ourselves always is the key to
light up the dark side. Arrange ourselves to solve the problems is always the
main responsibility in life. Facing problems always is our daily tasks in life,
it cannot be avoided. We can feel depress, disappointed, and fear, but we cannot put
ourselves at the negative situation, this is because, you are hurting
yourself.
Achieving life goals
always contains a lot of problems. So, we should think from imperfect side to
perfect side. It means that we should embrace our weakness and become perfect
person in the end. Not for other people,
is for ourselves. Categorizing the problems, if we can solve individually, then
do it, if cannot, ask for other help. Too many people today, they willing to
hide themselves from the problems, instead of expressing their opinions to the trusted one to
solve. If relating to achieving goal, there is always require support from
people, so we cannot avoid it to deal with people. The one point that I want to
accentuate is, if for imperfect person doing a task, it will become perfect in
the end. Why? Because they know how to share, compromise, live, and stick
together.
You see, every day we will face a lot of problems, but if we learn to lead ourselves first, invest to people, have a life vision, we can become perfect and help other to fulfil his goal.
“Imperfect person always learns to be perfect, but
one point should be understand, what is the meaning of perfect for yourself?”
06
University
Entering university can be considered as one part of our life journey. Ten of the people will be eight of them are undergraduates to invest for their future. When stepping into the university, we can be considered as we are harvesting what we invest before at college and school by struggling and combat different exams, issues and obstacles. Certain people have high anticipation towards their university life but other don’t, only considering university life is just normal, nothing special about. In this life-long learning process, studying can be classified as one part of our life process, if we gone through every moment in the university life, you can found that it just like a model framework, providing full picture to us learn to manage life in the future.
Let’s start from we
first entering university, we feel strange and lonely about the new environment. No
family, no friends, and cousins around us, all of the works are starting from
zero, from nothing to something. We enter our hostel, own room, start to learn
to manage our books, goods, and works accordingly based on our own culture.
Afterwards, we start to plan what we going to do in this golden university
life. We joined society, events, extra course, and club to fulfil our goals as
well. Once we well manage and plan our golden university plan, we will start to
explore, learn, and expose ourselves to the risk, failure, disappointment,
success and fear that we will face in the university life.
There is exaggeration
to say that, we have to add courses into our time table which are occupied our
life to let us manage the works based on the lecturers request even we don’t
like the subjects as well. Among the students that we don’t recognize, we have
to communicate with them to build up friendship and relationship. Frankly, if you
are not good at socializing and is introvert, just be yourself, there will be
always a space for you to express yourself. This is because, you have to learn
to manage yourself to face every kinds of people in your life.
If joining any society
or club, you will add extra works to train yourself in organizing skills and
critical thinking skills. Meanwhile, you have to give time to yourself to keep
healthy lifestyle and think something out of the works to improve yourself that
we called as contemplation. You have to categorize the urgent, non-urgent,
important and non-important of your works to train yourself and also gain
experiences after gone through all of these tasks.
In the entire university life, you will realize that, all of the problems and works that you face are definitely relating to your working life. In managing works, you have to start to plan a project to arrange people to complete it in time. In solving conflict, understanding the problem, people and works is pivotal to maintain the workflow process. In struggling the new works, perseverance always is the main key to breakthrough all of the barriers. All of these problems are level by level, if you willing to face it, you will improve your strength and become stronger as well. Therefore, in university life, what we think, work, plan and gain today will determine how far we go in the future. It mean that if you are sluggish today, you have to double pay for your works in the future. Here, I want to share about my university life model:
In this model, you can fully clear that, what you should gain and ignore unrelated matters to fulfil your vision. But the most important is, always link your vision to your future vision, give priority for your important task, spend your time wisely, you will found that, you are not average as compared to others, you are something in this world.
07
Colour
The pace of human is
becoming faster that is out of our expectation. If we are not willing to
change, we will at the back and hard to create rapport between people in the
long run. Undeniably, all of the issues, situation, and phenomena that we
cannot accept will become a kind of stress to us to grumble why we have to face
all of this barriers with no reasons. Actually, flexible to change is a part
and parcel of our life, we have to adapt it based on our thinking and acting,
so that everything is becoming vicissitude in our life.
Colour is a kind of
state, often we can use it to define our condition of life. People said we
should enjoy our life journey, because we are only live once, but human
sometime have their own morose moment, they will feel tired and desperate if
everything is not happen that is not giving happiness to them and face worse
situation to beat them down. Sometime, all of this happen can define us to
another person, learn and accept the desperation and rise from the fall.
Therefore, everyone has his own story, and everyone has the right to become
success person in life.
Learn to colouring our
life is one of the special way to structure our life. We cannot confirm and
stipulate that when we can success, but we can structure and plan what kind of
life that we have in every minute and second. It just like a stage, where to
put the speaker, backdrop, how to design background, when to put the music and
where the audience sit to make the overall performance become extraordinary to
make people flabbergasted. Hence, start to colour your life in people, matters,
and things today.
In works, if the
problem is urgent, we put it as red colour. If the works are challenging, we
put it as yellow colour. If the problem is causing unfair and disappointment
situation, we structure it as grey or black to conceptualize our mind to combat
it. With this colouring classification, we can fully identify what is the
problems and results that we have to face and accept to persuade ourselves that
everything happens add beauty in our life.
In relationship, it is
quite realistic that categorize all of the people in different colour section.
Nevertheless, all of these ways can help us to manage the relationship
appropriately without misunderstanding and equivocal. Moreover, think twice can
build up a long term relationship, poor thinking may cause you to stand in the
unfavourable relationship and manage it. Simply to say, when you feel depressed
about what you have today, think again why you decide to start it before and
try to retrieve and give it up.
In daily life, that is the most important that you put colour label to mediate what is the challenges and matters that you face today. The best preparation of tomorrow is learn to self-review everyday. This is because we are growing up day by day, what you like and don’t like, you have to force yourself to face it. Why he deserves to gain this reward? Why the people always plaguing me? Why people put life sentence to me due to my poor decision making? Put every colour label inside, rethink again, what is the problem that I need to manage and ignore. After understanding, you will discover that, problem is breakable, only emotion, control your mind to distort the facts.
I hope colouring your life can let you full understanding whether you live beyond and within your expectation. Although it is hard to live happily in this competitive world, but there is always got sky for you to spread your wings and fly!
08
A sleeping life
A sleeping life is
about the people choose to imagine and associate the time zone, memory and
moment that he wants to live that the people cannot fulfil it as well. Every
moment of life is precious, once we miss it, maybe we will regret about it.
Certain situation and matters that evoke us to think it, sometimes, a genuine
smile will appear in our face to show if can live again at that moment, it
would be great. In spite of cannot back to the memory, I would rather holding
my life at the moment although life is keep moving forward. How strong the
admonition shown in our life to tell us keep forward, no one can stop me to
stay in sleeping life. Actually, life always light up with hope and love, it is
depending on us how to evaluate and connect the problems to different solution.
When living in this
competitive and complicated era, the problem that we faced every day is on the
rise. It is lucky, everything will be solved by our companion. Otherwise, we
have to face it alone. Solitude sometimes is a main cause of sleeping life to
tell us how the drawback of the world, people will change, I will grow up in
failure and fear is hobgoblin of mind. Nevertheless, solitude can be self-renewal
to define ourselves again in life and make everything happens is part of our
life. Therefore, we have to know, the pass is always is the pass, everything
got its full definition, but how about the word “pass?” It doesn’t, but is
simple and concise, the pass is always is the pass.
Wisdom is the evoking human mind set toward something. It means that, if your time invest to useless things, you will gain empty in return. While if you invest your time to gain wisdom, it can refine you to become someone. Having a sleeping or meaningful life is a decision, it is totally up to you to determine about it. If you are reframe your life again, there will be always something better happen for you in the future. But the condition is, “switch off” your sleeping life mode. A wise decision made just like a seed, when you put in yourself to something, in the next 5 years, I will harvest what I want, happy family, great relationship, and success career. One characteristics need to put inside yourself: perseverance. This is because, you are breakthrough your sleeping life and make your ideal life to become reality.
In conclusion, everything is going to be okay. For the people struggle day and night, remember rest when you feel tired, for the people live happily, help the people in struggle, they will appreciate it, learn to give and take. Nobody perfect in this world, only ordinary people and ordinary people stick together, will create perfect world.
All in All
Here is my life thought that I would like to share
in my blog and the summary is as follow:
- Don’t be an egocentric person and learn to understand other
- Speak positive words everyday can make yourself feel better
- Lose an opportunity is not a main loss, learn from the mistake and find the new opportunity is the wise solution instead of blaming yourself
- Manage your time wisely
- Learn to compromise and forgive other because there is no perfect person in the world
- Plan your university life properly can help you to explore valuable lessons, skills and knowledge in the university
- Categorize your daily tasks by using colouring method can help you identify your problem and solution clearly
- Life is short, don’t stay in “A Sleeping Life,” you will regret when you are old.
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